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Your work will be better for it. He is strikingly efficient with detail and description, offering just enough about clothes, décor, and appearance to enhance one’s understanding of character and setting but not so much as to create an indulgent soup of symbolism. It reinforces Gambone’s themes and the sense of community among disparate characters, but it also underlines his ambivalence about the right and wrong choices in life.

More importantly, it’s human gold. Besides, there’s a fair amount of unrequited attraction among his characters, and all of the sexually charged scenes, whether consummated or not, are really about character. “No one over 40.” “Not into older.” It’s like aging is contagious. Watched marriage equality bloom. Ask someone who’s felt them.

You don’t have to be old to write older.

It’ll stretch you.

The Many-Splendored Loves of Older Gay Men

Queer baby boomers are now elders, the first generation to grow old after Stonewall.

Though the kids ended up calling adults by their first names often, because well.. I wanted the latter. You’ll walk away with a heart a little fuller.

💡 “Old Gays, New Tricks”

You might think you know everything, but here’s a shocker—older folks still evolve.

(or kuku, or grandpa….)

Older Gays Matter

A blog for writers, readers, and anyone who forgot there was a world before TikTok—and stories before swipe-ups.
By Gunther Allen

🌀 “You’ll Be One Someday”

Let’s start here—because it’s true—Older Gays Matter.

They didn’t just walk, so you could run—they marched. You just have to listen. If you ignore older queer people, others will too.

But if you highlight them?

Where and when I grew up (Virginia, 1960s), unrelated adults were called one of three possibilities: Mr/s. They remember when “coming out” was an act of courage, not content.

Want emotional stakes in your writing?

I refuse to be grandad. It thrives in authenticity.

Some older gay men won’t be your campy fairy godfathers. Others won’t even like musicals. Perhaps, survive.

Writers: don’t just follow trends—challenge them. It doesn’t care about crow’s feet or how fast someone walks.

It’s a story about caring for someone not your age—and discovering how life-changing it can be when someone truly sees you.