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Like “Busy Woman,” it’s a confident, biting take on power in relationships.


3. Carpenter blends humor with vulnerability, showing both empowerment and insecurity in a way that feels real.

Ultimately, “Busy Woman” is about control. “Well, I didn’t want your little bitch-ass anyway.”

Carpenter’s delivery sells every word.

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In the US, the track entered at number 7 with 2.051 million streams, demonstrating Carpenter’s growing commercial appeal.

Sabrina Carpenter “Busy Woman” Live Performances

The song made its live debut during Carpenter’s September 30, 2024 Brooklyn show, appearing in the “spin the bottle” surprise cover segment.

One second she’s practically purring “My clothes are off,” the next she’s spitting “bitch-ass” with the precise amount of spite needed to convince absolutely no one that she’s unbothered. Whether you take it as satire, empowerment, or just pure fun, “Busy Woman” is a track that refuses to be ignored.

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Sabrina Carpenter - 'Busy Woman' lyrics

INTRO
Oh, hey (Oh)

VERSE 1
I'm so mature, collected, and sensible
Except when I get hit with rejection
To turn me down, well, that's just unethical
I'll turn into someone you're scared to know

CHORUS
But if you need my love
My clothes are off, I'm coming over to your place
And if you don't need (If you don't need) my love
Well, I didn't want your little b---h-ass anyway
Yeah, I'm a busy woman
I wouldn't let you come into my calendar any night
But if you want my kisses, I'll be your perfect missus
'Til the day that one of us dies
Oh, hey

POST-CHORUS
Busy woman, all the time
Busy woman

VERSE 2
So much to shave and lipstick to reapply
Maybe for you, though, I could accommodate
I'm flexible, so just tell me what you like
Tantric yoga, baby, namaste
If you don't want me, I'll just deem you gay

CHORUS
But if you need my love
My clothes are off, I'm coming over to your place (Ah-ah-ah-ah)
And if you don't need (If you don't need) my love
Well, I didn't want your little b---h-ass anyway
Yeah, I'm a busy woman
I wouldn't let you come into my calendar any night
But if you want my kisses, I'll be your perfect missus
'Til the day that one of us dies

BRIDGE
Busy woman, all the time
Busy woman for the rest of my life
My openings are super tight
Busy woman, unless you call at night
Right, ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh

CHORUS
But if you need my love
My clothes are off, I'm coming over to your place (Ah-ah-ah-ah)
And if you don't need (If you don't need) my love (My love)
Well, I didn't want your little b---h-ass anyway
'Cause I'm a busy woman (Oh, hey)
I wouldn't let you come into my calendar any night
But if you want my kisses, I'll be your perfect missus (Ooh-ooh)

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“If you don’t want me, I’ll just deem you gay,” it’s the lyric that launched a thousand tweets and sparked heated online debates.

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“Busy Woman” is both humorous and brutally honest about relationships, attraction, and self-worth.

The song arrives when pop music increasingly embraces complex female narratives.

The title Busy Woman becomes both a shield (“I wouldn’t let you come into my calendar any night”) and a flex (“My openings are super tight”), perfectly capturing that post-rejection phase where you try to convince yourself and everyone else that you’re totally fine, actually.

Sabrina Carpenter “Busy Woman” Lyrics Breakdown

The song’s push and pull between desperation and dismissal reaches its peak in the chorus.

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Live performances have revealed new dimensions to the track, with audience reactions particularly highlighting its comedic timing.

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The song’s narrator starts by claiming she’s “mature, collected and sensible” but immediately admits that’s only true until rejection hits.

The story unfolds through the eyes of someone who insists they’re far too important to care about being turned down, while simultaneously proving they care very much indeed.

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Sabrina Carpenter Busy Woman Lyrics

Intro
(Oh, hey)
Oh

Verse 1
I’m so mature, collected, and sensible
Except when I get hit with rejection
To turn me down, well, that’s just unethical
I’ll turn into someone you’re scared to know

Chorus
But if you need my love
My clothes are off, I’m comin’ over to your place
And if you don’t need (If you don’t need) my love
Well, I didn’t want your little bitch ass anyway
Yeah, I’m a busy woman
I wouldn’t let you come into my calendar any night
But if you want my kisses
I’ll be your perfect Mrs.

’til the day that one of us dies (Oh, hey)

Post-Chorus
Busy woman, all the time
Busy woman

Verse 2
So much to shave and lipstick to reapply
Maybe for you, though, I could accommodate
I’m flexible, so just tell me what you like
Tantric yoga, baby, namaste
If you don’t want me, I’ll just deem you gay

Chorus
But if you need my love
My clothes are off, I’m comin’ over to your place (Ah)
And if you don’t need (If you don’t need) my love
Well, I didn’t want your little bitch ass anyway
Yeah, I’m a busy woman
I wouldn’t let you come into my calendar any night
But if you want my kisses
I’ll be your perfect Mrs.

’til the day that one of us dies

[Bridge]
Busy woman, all the time
Busy woman for the rest of my life
My openings are super tight
Busy woman, unless you call tonight
Night (Ooh)
Ooh

Chorus
But if you need my love
My clothes are off, I’m comin’ over to your place (Ah)
And if you don’t need (If you don’t need) my love (My love)
Well, I didn’t want your little bitch ass anyway
‘Cause I’m a busy woman (Oh, hey)
I wouldn’t let you come into my calendar any night
But if you want my kisses
I’ll be your perfect Mrs.

’til the day that one of us dies

"Busy Woman" lyrics

Sabrina Carpenter Lyrics

"Busy Woman"

(Oh, hey)
Oh

I'm so mature, collected, and sensible
Except when I get hit with rejection
To turn me down, well, that's just unethical
I'll turn into someone you're scared to know

But if you need my love
My clothes are off, I'm comin' over to your place
And if you don't need (If you don't need) my love
Well, I didn't want your little bitch ass anyway
Yeah, I'm a busy woman
I wouldn't let you come into my calendar any night
But if you want my kisses
I'll be your perfect Mrs.

'til the day that one of us dies (Oh, hey)

Busy woman, all the time
Busy woman

So much to shave and lipstick to reapply
Maybe for you, though, I could accommodate
I'm flexible, so just tell me what you like
Tantric yoga, baby, namaste
If you don't want me, I'll just deem you gay

But if you need my love
My clothes are off, I'm comin' over to your place (Ah)
And if you don't need (If you don't need) my love
Well, I didn't want your little bitch ass anyway
Yeah, I'm a busy woman
I wouldn't let you come into my calendar any night
But if you want my kisses
I'll be your perfect Mrs.

'til the day that one of us dies

Busy woman, all the time
Busy woman for the rest of my life
My openings are super tight
Busy woman, unless you call tonight
Night (Ooh)
Ooh

But if you need my love
My clothes are off, I'm comin' over to your place (Ah)
And if you don't need (If you don't need) my love (My love)
Well, I didn't want your little bitch ass anyway
'Cause I'm a busy woman (Oh, hey)
I wouldn't let you come into my calendar any night
But if you want my kisses
I'll be your perfect Mrs.

'til the day that one of us dies



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Writer(s): Jack Michael Antonoff, Amy Rose Allen, Sabrina Annlynn Carpenter

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