Do gay guys like women

Maybe the man of your dreams is more like a fairy godmother with abs. 😍

They’re the connoisseurs of the best colognes, body washes, and grooming products. That walking, talking Ken just might be a Barbie at heart, too. They’ll dissect your relationship drama and actually care. The queer community is famous for their refusal to conform to traditional ideas of what sex, gender, and relationships “should” look like—and that’s exactly what Oliver and I are doing.

As out adults, gay men usually learn to accept themselves and stop trying so hard to win the approval and acceptance of others.

Similarly, the friendship of gay men offers something different than the companionship of straight men. Is it accidental?

Instead, they feel more comfortable removing the sexual factor that exists at straight bars and prefer the harmlessness that comes with socializing with gay men in gay surroundings.

This type of relationship is often unhealthy, with women choosing gay men as friends for superficial reasons: because they're more fun and love to shop. Whether it’s sleek streetwear, tailored suits, or knowing the difference between taupe and beige (🧐), they know how to dress to impress.

Perfectly trimmed beards, styled hair, fresh shoes, clean nails—it’s a whole vibe.

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There have been rare cases where gay men have married women and even had children. Is it emotional? I would never know, because I’m too chickenshit to bring it up. I haven’t told any other queers I know about me and Oliver, because I’m worried they’re going to say that I’m invalidating gay identities, and that I’m endangering queer people.

Way before Oliver, it struck me that demonstrating your love for somebody by dictating who they’re allowed to have sex with seems at best really fucking weird and at worst controlling and quite scary. 💘

🏋️‍♂️ The Lifestyle: Abs Over Ales

While your typical “macho man” might spend Friday nights downing beers and talking engines, many gay men are at the gym sculpting their bodies or sipping wheatgrass smoothies by the pool.

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Compare that to the rugged, beer-stained jeans and yesterday’s T-shirt of a “real man,” and, well… it’s not hard to see who stands out in a crowd. The group of women I’m referring to are often called "f*g hags," a term that manages to be derogatory toward two groups: women and gay men.

The term "f*g hag" refers to a woman, usually in her 20s or 30s, who loves hitting the gay bars with her gay male friends.

Whatever we have will end either when one of us starts to hate the sound of the other one eating, or when Oliver meets a man he wants to monogamize.

This fills me with an odd sense of calm. 🥴

Smelling good is not just about attraction—it signals care, confidence, and self-respect. His explanation also makes me feel extra-very special, so obviously I’m on board.

So whether you’ve fallen for a gay man, are best friends with one, or just admire them from afar, know this:

✨ It’s okay to love someone who sees you, uplifts you, and understands you—even if the love is platonic.